When I was a teenager I was more focused on working and trying to get my first business going as a dog groomer than anything else. My parents did not have to worry about many of the risks of online threats as many parents do today. The only communication device I had outside of my parents phone was a One Way Beeper which received messages and I had to scramble to a Pay Phone to be able to answer especially when it was my mom.
The Urgent Message
I remember my Mom and Dad had a unique way of letting me know how urgent or important it was for me to call them back. If the message said Urgent I knew I had to do my best to get to a phone or to the house as quick as possible because they needed me.
My parents where very relaxed (sometimes I think too relaxed) and I grew up with a feeling of being trusted. My parents would never breath down my back trying to monitor me because they trusted my judgment . My parents never used the word urgent in a text message or communication if it really was not.
My clear communication with my parents while I was a teenager always helped me convey any concerns. On the other side when they needed something and said it was a priority or urgent I knew I had to drop everything and get in touch with them. Till this day I still respond the same way when my parents need me.
When I was a teenager I remember how some of my friends would ignore their parents messages. At that time we had a fraction of the distractions we have now. I see a priority in establishing the importance of setting a tone in those messages that are important.
How do you communicate the sense of urgency or priority to your kids? What words are sent in a communication, which let’s your kid knows that they need to drop everything and contact you as a parent?
photo credit by Wendel F.
Consider yourself lucky. The majority of kids I grew up with had no parental support system. The wonderful thing is now you get to pass that on and those who didn’t have that have the choice to be different.
Raul Colon says
I was lucky… I agree and that is a great point the reason why I write here to share my thoughts and see if it is of value to someone.