My dad Hector Feliciano, born in Guayanilla, Puerto Rico, left for the states in his late teens to early twenties. He lived with a group of other bachelors and friends who were from his hometown in Bridgeport, Connecticut. By this time my mother Migdalia, had been living in Bridgeport, Connecticut from the age of five. They met, got together, and had me in 19.. well you get the idea.
Along with my two sisters Milta and Veronica, we came up with our all time favorite and as teenagers, sometimes annoying, Hectorisms.
“Hay que usar el sentido comun” “You have to use your common sense” : This applied to everything from washing dishes to choosing the right partner. Boy did he get eyes rolling when he said this to my sisters and I.
“That’s not very nice” : Till this day he uses this when we say something that is mean to each other or even to him.
“No seas ordinaria” : Which means don’t be uncouth. This phrase was used when we were not lady like in front of him.
“Come on Lucilla” : His phrase when he got annoyed with us if we did not rush to give him a hammer while he was working on one of his home projects. As we got older we made sure to skip out of the house when we heard of a new remodeling project.
“Te digo las cosas antes de que pasen” “I tell you things before they happen”: One of our all time favorite lines when many of our older teenage friends were facing adult dilemmas. During prom season, newspaper clippings would go on the fridge if a teen got into an accident. He would tell us this phrase so we could avoid mistakes that we would regret. But we always came back with the all American phrase, “Kids need to learn by making mistakes” To which he replied, “I don’t believe in that phrase.”
“Fijate, Lucilla”: two words followed by the longest explanation ever about any topic.
“Como, donde y cuando” “When, where, and at the appropriate time”: In reference to telling adult jokes. Till this day he won’t say anything that is inappropriate in front of us.
I am his first born and last daughter to give birth, many of the things he has said over the years, resonate with me now that I am a parent.
Even though we have fought over the years, we are like two peas in a pod. I am lucky to still have him around telling his corny jokes. One of the things my dad said to me about a year ago and I promised never to forget was, “When you look at the stars and see the three kings (Orion’s Belt), I want you to remember me.” I sure will Pop.
What one-liners do you remember your dad telling you?
I love the idea of keeping a record of your dad’s “refranes”. I think I ‘l compose my own. soon.
Raul Colon says
Great Idea might be a thing for all of us to go through. But I am not sure if Don Tito’s many stories would fit her. We would need another blog!
Thanks Rick They are part of the Feliciano lore. LOL
Raul Colon says
I have to say that your dad is unique in many ways and his way of seeing things represents a moment in time where he had to made difficult decisions to offer you guys the best.
What a great picture of him holding Daniela!
Carmen V. Hernandez says
This a great idea and great stories n yes I have heard some of his saying and some of his jokes, he is truely one of a kind. I will always say he is a true gentleman especially w/his comay. lol. May the Lord continue 2 bless w/lots of health n more corny jokes, lol. I always admire his friendship w/ur padrino Jose also a great man, how I wish sometimes he was my biological father. But thank God 4 letting us have him in our lives.
Thanks for leaving a comment Comay! We cherish padrino Jose dearly!
Well – My Dad, Happy Birthday Papi! If it werent for him, I dont think I would be the person I am today, needless to say, I am just like him! lol
Maybe we are like three peas in a pod! LOL Thanks for the comment and input sis!
Remember Lucy que yo soy “la nena”!! Papi is one of a kind and I too came out very much like him. As I have grown and had to listen to his repetative “consejos”, I actually do agree with him and I find myself telling others the same. I am truley grateful for the man and father that he has been to us no matter how hard he may have been, he was a hard worker, well educated and never left us with out any of the basic necessities. I never forget how every other Friday he would come home from work with Snickers bars for us and a Milky Way for mom, sit at the table count his money after cashing his check, seperate what was for bills and then say, “estos vente pesitos me quedan para una caja de cerveca”. A true “old fashion” father that is very rare to find in any man today. I LOVE YOU PAPI more than you will ever know! Bendicion!
Good Memory Vero! When he reads this he will love it! Thanks for helping out sis or better yet “LA NENA”
Veronica – you maybe la nena, but I was Papi’s “Fashionista”. I remember picking out his clothes and putting on his jewelry, and even hairspraying his hair,lol remember that. Oh lets not forget the Paul Mitchell Products, Papi should have been a model for the product as much money he spent on those products ,lol
Yes because he needs #2 shampoo an don’t you forget it sis!
LOL!!! I definitely remember that Milta!
This is awesome! Tule great idea fir sure leave it up you!! Happy Birthday Compi. Thank you for always welcoming me and treating me like one of the Nenas. Also for making Dave feel super comfortable in your home. He loves you guys as much as we do!! God bless and looking forward to many more bonfires even if you use tons of lighter fluid to get it going!! lol
Cheni thanks for being part of the family. I am sure dad is going to be burning something when he goes to visit.
Compay, Feliz cumplean~os, no me olvide de el. Gracias por su carin~os y sus atenciones para con Jose y los mios. Lo admiro mucho y lo respecto siempre. Le deseo lo mejor en su dia. Bendiciones. Carin~os de su Comay Socorro. Hasta pronto <3
Hola Nestor even if his name is Hector .I also call him Compay if he’s not my compay. One admiration I have for ur Dad is that out of all the people I know to be Comay or Compay my Mom and step dad Cheo have such a unique friendship and respect for each other. Over the years we have grown to love him and laugh with him. Share sad time and happy ones. My last visit there was especially dear to my heart. His hospitality toward me and my sis. Shared his beautiful home with Maggie my deareast Aunt. I will cherish it forever. The Picnic the Bonfire and how he just loves his island. Compay Gracias por su ejemplo. Dios te de muchos an~os mas. Besitos de Toyi.
Pues…a Lucilla, gracias por cojer buenas ideas te tu papa. Esa fue una de las buenas. Y gracias a todos por pensar en mi.
Los quiero muchos todos,
Hector Luis Feliciano
A Toyi y a Carmen, el 16 de Julio voy a tener un “bon fire”…miren a la luna. 🙂