Ok, this is one of those tough subjects, I’ve had to argue with a lot of people recently. Do you let your kids sleep with you? Let me begin saying that, with my first born, we counted the days until she could not sleep with us any more. We were selfish to the point of returning her to her crib, even if she had just let us know that she preferred to sleep with us. The excuse was always the same: “I need my beauty sleep”.
With our second child, we practiced a different approach. See, we learned how sleeping with the parents, the children are less afraid of things/situations and have more self esteem. All of this from a simple gesture of letting them sleep with me?! Seems that, when they shut down, they feel secure to know we’re there and our loving support encourages them to feel safe all the time.
Nowadays, we sleep with my boy’s foot in my face and his hand up my wife’s nose. We wake up destroyed but fulfilled knowing that he’s growing up with less fear. At first we were concerned about a baby in our bed. After all we could roll over and squash him at any time, so we came up with a simple, yet brilliant solution: we pushed the bed a little to the side and placed his crib right next to our bed. we took of one of the rails and voilá! we had ourselves a bed/crib contraption. He would sleep with us in the middle and after a while, my wife would slide him to his crib.
My son is almost two already, and I can assure you he is way more secure than my daughter. He’s like a little explorer. Like a little version of Capt. Jonathan Archer dwelling into the unknown with high hopes and his fear in check. Trouble is, I still second-guess myself wether it was his sleeping with us that did it or if he was built that way. Guess I’ll never know.
Anyways, the purpose of me writing this here is to ask you: Do you let your kids sleep with you? Why? Why not? Shed some light into this mystery, will you?