Comments on: To Sleep or not to Sleep (With you) http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you Alliance to Protect Our Children Sun, 05 May 2013 22:18:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Maria http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/#comment-221 Maria Wed, 21 Sep 2011 19:55:00 +0000 http://papaheroes.com/?p=1330#comment-221 I believe that a child that get use to sleep with their parents can be an insecure person in the future. If you teach your kids to sleep alone and that there is nothing to be afraid you are teaching them to be independet and to let them know that you are there for them but still they have a role to play and they need to learn hoe to confront their fears. But also if you feel doing it sometimes I think that doesn’t hurt anyone. The problem is when they get older…

]]> By: Maria http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/#comment-222 Maria Wed, 21 Sep 2011 19:55:00 +0000 http://papaheroes.com/?p=1330#comment-222 I believe that a child that get use to sleep with their parents can be an insecure person in the future. If you teach your kids to sleep alone and that there is nothing to be afraid you are teaching them to be independet and to let them know that you are there for them but still they have a role to play and they need to learn hoe to confront their fears. But also if you feel doing it sometimes I think that doesn’t hurt anyone. The problem is when they get older…

]]> By: Maria http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/#comment-223 Maria Wed, 21 Sep 2011 19:55:00 +0000 http://papaheroes.com/?p=1330#comment-223 I believe that a child that get use to sleep with their parents can be an insecure person in the future. If you teach your kids to sleep alone and that there is nothing to be afraid you are teaching them to be independet and to let them know that you are there for them but still they have a role to play and they need to learn hoe to confront their fears. But also if you feel doing it sometimes I think that doesn’t hurt anyone. The problem is when they get older…

]]> By: Anonymous http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/#comment-198 Anonymous Mon, 29 Aug 2011 20:34:00 +0000 http://papaheroes.com/?p=1330#comment-198 Milaviles,
Wow. Your comment is a post on its own. Thanks for the incredible feedback.

We’ve come to use our gut instinct much more than what we used to. We used to lay a course of action using the input provided to us. Nowadays we do what feels right. Co-sleeping feel right for us. There will come a time where he’s too big and he will HAVE to sleep on his own, and I’ll finally have my pillow back, but for now, waking up with his foot inside my mouth is ok.

Thanks again, for your comment!

]]> By: Milaviles http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/#comment-197 Milaviles Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:54:00 +0000 http://papaheroes.com/?p=1330#comment-197 As with any parenting issue – everyone has their own opinion as to what is best (and some presume that what is best for them is best for all LOL). The internet is also an amazing tool in that you can find pros and cons and enough supporting evidence and research to really confuse just about everyone on any given parenting topic. Co-sleeping is GREAT if and ONLY if it works for you and your family.
With my first child, I took in all that was advised, suggested and told to me but being a 1st time mom it was scary knowing if I was making the right decision. I finally decided that as “mom” I would go with my instincts, mixed in with my Dr’s suggestions, a little common sense and sometimes the suggestions of my elders to base what I did and how I brought up my child.
In terms of co-sleeping – I knew it wasn’t for me/us. I have a relative who co-slept and couldn’t (and sometimes I wonder if she “wouldn’t”) break the habit? and her kids were 9 and 11 yrs old. I thought that was beyond much especially because she was always complaining about it but hey, I always also say “to each their own”
Now, both my kids are very independent, natural explorers, very strong headed and their self esteem is not an issue BUT I also make sure that I provide the support and guidance to make sure that those traits and qualities are fostered in them. This is what works for US – and if co-sleeping works for someone else then, more power to them. Everyone needs to do what is right for their situation and family nucleus.
Congrats on doing something different with your second one and like you said, you’ll never know if the differences are due to co-sleeping or not but what matters is that you’re doing what you feel is right for you all.

]]> By: Anonymous http://papaheroes.com/to-sleep-or-not-to-sleep-with-you/#comment-196 Anonymous Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:01:00 +0000 http://papaheroes.com/?p=1330#comment-196 I will be the first to say that yes our daughter sleeps with us for many reasons. One being that I am still breastfeeding and she will get up at least once to do so. We did have her in her moises but when it was time to transition to the crib, she was waking at least twice a night to breastfeed and I even slept on the floor so I could be there in a moments notice. When I saw that I needed to rest and the months started getting hotter, we decided to put her in our bed. We don’t have the luxury of running two A/C’s in the house. Luckily when she turns one, we are hoping for cooler weather. Yes sometimes I am falling (as I did this morning) off the bed, and we push dad off at other times, but people from the beginning of time slept in clans. There are those who say the child needs to be independent and that parents need their privacy. I co-slept with my parents and they managed to have two other daughters. LOL Every family does their own thing.

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