Sometimes, a good “why?” is all you need to decipher the mystery.
Back in 2005 a book motivated me into leaving the demanding work environment of a Big 4 CPA Firm in New York City in search of finding better quality of life.
This book was different because it was written by someone that I interacted with multiple times. What made Gene standout was that although he was the Chairman of KPMG a large accounting firm he was a very approachable & nice person.
One of the highlights of the book is when Gene writes about the perfect moments in life. Those moments when everything in the Universe aligns and you experience happiness. These moments can arise in the most unexpected moments but what makes them stand out is the experience you leave with.
My Alertness on High
I came back to Puerto Rico in 2006 trying to keep a balance in making money and having fun. Fast forward to 2012 my life took a take a turn for the best. I became less dependent on material things and even closer towards the importance of family.
Since becoming a Dad those perfect moments happen more often. When I see my daughter accomplish a milestone or just observe her as she progresses I get quick reminders that we are only here for a short period of time and I need to cherish that moment.
As I saw my daughter the other day dancing with my number 1 mentor (Uncle Irving) I quickly realized everything had aligned so that my Uncle, Grandmother, Lucy, and I could spend the afternoon together enjoying the breeze coming from the ocean while we listened to a Funk, Disco, and Soul Playlist on Spotify.
Seeing my daughter interact with those who I love was the key component to it being a perfect moment. Seeing how at such an early stage she loves her Tio Tito and how those moments will always be captured in my head and through the lens of a camera.
Tears can Be Added
I tend to tear up often as I am doing now just thinking of the awesome day I had and how I am so blessed to have great people surrounding me who make time to spend with my daughter.
What is a Perfect Moment
To understand the components of what makes a perfect moment we can have a discussion here. I had a special moment before I reviewed this post I was holding my 18 month old daughter while we both look at the moon. I wonder how many more people came before me and did the same. I made it a special moment.
Open your ears, heart, train your eye; enhance all your senses so when that next perfect moment arises you can enjoy it then and there.
Every parent’s main goal is to help his or her children on the road to being independent. My daughter is 16 months old and I get amazed on how fast she grows and how much she is learning.
Observing her especially in my first hour every morning leads me to see how she wants to try things on her own. She started requesting to feed herself months ago, now she brushes her teeth (toothbrush & water), and lately the list of things she wants to do on her own is endless.
The Main Goal
This past march when I went to SXSWi I had the opportunity to meet Aaron Manley from @motorphilia. I first heard of Aaron when @chrisbrogan wrote “Buy a Car Off The Internet”. Since then I have been reading the awesome content and stories Aaron shares online. I had the opportunity to spend an hour with Aaron and it was an enlightening experience on how Aaron sees life. Aaron is an extremely positive guy and since I met him I have been working on seeing the positive side of many aspects in my life.
Key Take Away
Talking with Aaron there was one specific lesson that I took away from the conversation. I remember Aaron mentioned that his goal in life is to be able to see and make his kid become independent. In his words he feels he did his job when his son is ready for the many challenges in life.
Early Signs of Independence
As my daughter continues to learn and become more independent I see that little by little she is telling me to back off. There are moments where she is telling me in her own way Dad I got this. I recently experienced it with an iPad app she enjoys which is called Wood Puzzle. Thanks to Mommy Beta’s review and a recommendation from the folks of Daddy On Board it is the IOS app that I have gotten the most parenting value from yet.
The objective of the Wood Puzzle First Years for iPad is to place shapes into corresponding slots. My daughter does a good job with placing many of the items with a few other I give her a hand. On most occasions when I try to help her she brushes my hands of the screen and continues the attempts.
Babies and children have a unique way to focus on something and accomplish the task at hand; so stopping them might not be the best idea.
In my case I will continue to motivate Daniela in trying her best at the iPad app which will hopefully lead to other things in the future when Daniela says “Dad don’t worry I got this”.